The year I stopped trying to control everything and my business tripled
What Went Well
First I wanted to pull my intentions I wrote in December 2024 for 2025 (pulled directly from last year’s review).
This was the first year where I didn’t map out any ambitious business growth targets. I was more interested in life outside of work. I wanted to focus on learning Portuguese, more time for art and creativity, and Masculine/Feminine work (leaning more into Yin energy, nurturing my feminine – think less hustle/go-go-go and more being present and in the flow).
Tripled business profit
Ironically, the year I didn’t make business growth my goal, it happened. This was after three years of shooting for growth but either staying the same or decreasing compared to the prior year. Is this like the “not looking for a relationship and then it finds you” thing? haha. But I’m enormously grateful.
Here’s what actually moved the needle:
I started the year with an aha moment: most of my clients had watched a free workshop (or three) before signing up. Turned out, giving people a real taste of the work was the best sales strategy. So I tripled down, going from three workshops per year to nine. Combined with more visibility through ads and partnerships, my program enrollments and revenue grew significantly.
The wild part? While I worked with twice as many students, my client satisfaction actually went up after launching Messy Action (my largest cohort to date). I’ve always said I’d rather stay small than scale in a way that compromises my clients’ result. So seeing satisfaction go up while working with more people was the biggest win.
I also made some key hires that changed everything: someone to take my sales calls, someone to run my ads, and a new VA to handle customer inquiries. Basically offloading all the tasks that drained my energy the most. Never burned out. Pretty consistent energy throughout. I always say the best form of time management is energy management, and by preserving my energy I was able to work more effectively.
Lastly, I worked with a fantastic business coach this year (unlike last year’s rough experience). I attribute a lot of my business success to having the right people in my corner, my team and coach included.
- The more misaligned your life is, the more you will struggle with procrastination. I wanted to teach my students not only the emotional management tools needed to break the habit, but also the tools that would help them build a life they were genuinely excited to wake up to.
- In my life I’ve seen two periods where I made a massive leap in a short amount of time. Like starting a business from the ground up in 60 days, when the month prior I had no idea what I should do, hated my job, and was procrastinating it. I wanted to teach the same tools that helped me arrive at massive clarity, clear resistance that was causing me to procrastinate my goals, and become a whole new version of myself in a short period of time.
Challenges and Learnings
I’ve honestly sat here for 10 minutes trying to think of anything else that didn’t go well, but 2025 was genuinely fantastic. If there’s anything worth mentioning, it’s this: I can feel myself shifting into a different version of me.
More confident. More grounded. More clear on what I actually teach and why it matters.
Sometimes that clarity hits so hard I want to burn my online brand down and rebuild my entire business from scratch. That’s part of why I launched Messy Action, even though I had a perfectly function procrastination program that took 6 months to build. Other times I catch myself retreating to what’s safe and proven, even when I know I’ve outgrown parts of it.
The biggest example? My spirituality is a huge part of my life and work, but I’ve been hesitant to bring it fully into my personal brand. I’m into the woo stuff: Human Design, chakra work, talking to my spirit guides, annual astrology readings, all of it. I posted a picture from my astrologer’s office once and got flooded with DM requests for his contact info… alongside a message telling me it’s “the devil’s work” lol.
And honestly? It’s the anticipation of those messages that keeps me playing it safe sometimes.
But here’s what I know: spirituality is one of the biggest accelerators for my students when they’re open to it. Identity work and emotional regulation are inherently spiritual, whether you believe in something greater or not. Intuition has become a massive pillar in my teachings because it’s quite literally a life cheat code. You can spend years running in circles doing what “makes logical sense,” or you can follow the scary nudges that lead you somewhere way better. And the way you hear those nudges even more? Training your intuition, which is why it’s a new component I teach my students in Messy Action.
I’m in my Saturn return (an identity shift that hits around age 29, IYKYK), and this year had me rethinking how I show up online. I tend to share my tips, keep my personal stances close to the chest, and never say anything too disagreeable because I don’t have the energy for people who are committed to misunderstanding anyone with a different opinion. But more and more I want to share the magic that’s helped me find more meaning in life, even if I can’t break it into a scientific method.
So this is the work in progress: learning to step into my full voice without needing everyone to agree with me. It’s a balance of honoring what’s gotten me here while making space for what wants to come through next.
What I am putting my energy toward in 2026
Nurturing my feminine even more
By “feminine” I don’t mean “girly” stuff. I mean letting my body and intuition lead instead of my analytical brain. Going deeper into presence, slowness, spaciousness.
I started this work with a mentor and I’m ready to keep releasing wherever I’m still holding tension. Spaciousness, slowness and presence are things I’ve come to prioritize more over the years. I’m eons away from my once hyper vigilant overthinking mind that always strove for achieving and tied worth to output. But there’s a new level of ease and being in my body I’m coming into.
My word for 2026: JOY
Last Notes
Before I wrap with my favorite things from the year, I want to acknowledge something: I know not everyone had a year like this. The world has been heavy. A lot of people are hurting, stressed, or just trying to survive right now.
I don’t share my wins to make anyone feel behind or less-than. I share them because I believe in being honest about what’s working in my life, and my lessons to get there in hopes some find something useful in my experience. I don’t think we help each other by hiding our wins any more than we help by pretending struggles don’t exist. Both matter and if you’ve read this far – thank you for being here 🙂